How to help yourself, step 2

Hi All,

Thanks for following my blog. It is my honor to present you these steps to help yourself, and to be able to show you the way to become a better you. That is after all what life is about, is it not?

Last time we looked at getting rid of things that drained our energy, this time, we shall look at another thing that take away our self-control. Namely addictions. You may think I am going to talk solely of addictions to alcohol, cigarettes and drugs, but no, there are addictions of other things that are even more common, even some that we may not think of as very damaging. Like the addiction to coffee, chocolate, comfort food, and sugar.

And yes, these are no better than addictions to alcohol, cigarettes and drugs, believe it or not, any addiction we have, even some we do not think of as addictions, are taking away our self-determination and undermining our confidence in ourselves. So it is a serious matter. The book I am getting the points from have even said it like this; before you can knock your addictions you are not ready to go to a life coach for coaching, and this because you are unable to control yourself completely.

In this book the author wrote about her addiction to coffee. She never thought of the one cup of coffee she had every morning as an addiction, and would tend to agree that that is not an addiction, but she goes on to tell about the effect of not having that coffee, and that is mind boggling to hear that she had such bad withdrawal symptoms when she quit drinking this coffee, that it proved to have been an addiction.

This proves that we may have addictions we do not even think of as addictions in life. There are many that can be addicted to stuff that they do not think is an addiction. One friend of mine thought of his marijuana smoking as something he could do every day without getting addicted. However, the problem of his addiction was that the argument went like this; I am not addicted because I can quit when I want to, but I do not want to stop it, because I enjoy it. Some have might heard other people say something similar about different addictions.

We can be addicted to many things like coffee, sugar, chocolate, cigarettes, alcohol, gambling, sex, pornography, and complaining. It is things we do not always think of as an addiction, however, when they take control over you, and you get symptoms of needing to have it when you do not get it, it is by definition an addiction. It is scary to think what this does to your brain.

In research they have found that the brain is effected by the addiction, and learn to crave the things we eat, drink or do. It removes our control over ourselves. This is serious. It means we do not have full control over ourselves. The book author even define the addictions as being so bad for us that we are not ready for going to a coach before we have managed to take back the full power over our brain and over our addictions. I think some addictions can be solved with a coach, but I see the point of the author, due to not having full control our oneself, you might not be able to execute the plan the coach will put up for you.

Though most of us have some addictions, it is important to remember in the process of going to remove them, that not succeeding is just a step on the journey to managing to rid yourself of the addiction. It is important to work on them one by one. It is suggested that you write them all down and get rid of them one by one, if you do not yet succeed, do not beat yourself up, you just need another, new plan for how to manage it. It is like coaching. If one plan do not work to your satisfaction, we try another plan. You often have many different options in trying to quit something.

How to do this step: Getting rid of addictions

We are now going to look at how you should get rid of addictions. The first step is to become aware that you have an addiction. This is not always as easy to see as you think. It can be that the brain fool you into thinking that something is not an addiction, while it is something you need to have to feel good. Remember the wise words, your brain do not need anything to feel good. It will feel good when you decide to feel good.

Step 2, is listing all your addictions on a list, then, we will start to remove them one by one, one important part here is, one by one. Do not try to change too much at one time. This is important, it is something your brain needs. There is time for change, but getting rid of all bad habits all at once is too much to take, and so you are most likely to fail all of it, if you take on too much at one time.

Step 3, is crossing of the list when you have succeeded, here it is also time for a celebration. Such a great deal as quitting an addiction needs to be celebrated. It is an achievement, showing that you can do it. You are strong, maybe even stronger than you thought before you began. Have you ever thought of the memories where you did succeed in something? How do you feel when you think of them? I am sure you, as I, feel like a winner, just in that moment when you succeeded. In NLP, we learn to use such moments for all it is worth to prove to ourselves that we can. We can do it. All humans are GREAT MIRACLES. Some of us just have not noticed it themselves yet.

My own experience with addictions

In my days I have discovered that I have many addictions. I was addicted to drinking coffee, I was addicted to sugar and especially chocolate and lollies, I was addicted to cigarettes, I was addicted to feeling sad for myself , yes even I was addicted to some things I do not even want to mention by name.

Now I will try to tell you that I am so lucky that I have succeeded not being addicted to anything any longer. BUT; I cannot say that. In 2003 I was told by my doctor that I have developed diabetes type 2, and that I therefore had to stop eaten lollies and sugary things. That became a problem. I could not stop eating a chocolate every day. So I tried to stop having all sorts of things that had chocolate taste. I could not have chocolate milk shakes, because it aroused in me a need to eat a chocolate, a real one, not just the tast of it.

So, you can see, it is not that some can do it and some can not. We all have our own parts that we are struggling with. Other things I have tried to quit has been just as hopeless to stop. I have now gathered new faith in the fact that I should manage, and have made plans to stop all of my addictions.

However, to finish of on a positive note, I was addicted to coffee for a very long time. I remember I was travelling from home every morning at 5 am, and coming to the work place about 7.30 am. My work did not start until 9 am, and so I usually met with some of my friends at a coffee bar and sat there from 7.30 am to 8.45 am, drinking 3-4 different large Starbucks coffee every morning. I never thought of being addicted to coffee, but I must admit in hindsight that at that time I was addicted to it. When I started studying for teachers college I could no longer afford to drink that much coffee in a coffee shop, but I drank coffee from the cheap student bar in the University instead. When I came home to Norway, I then started a process to stop drinking coffee, by drinking tea for a month, then I went from normal tea over to herbal tea, and that way, I managed to stop my cravings for coffee. So I have managed one addiction, which mean I can manage all other addictions, too. So let us all start step 1, writing them all up on a list of addictions, and work on one after the other, then the task will not seem so large, and remember if you manage to win over one addiction, you will be able to win them all. Good JOB. Enjoy a life without addictions you too.

Have a great week, and enjoy a life free of addictions soon

All the best to you
John

How to help yourself, the series Step 1, Week 1

Hi All,

It is great to see you back this week, last week we started a serie, or should I rather state, we laid the foundation for a new series, it is a number of steps you can take, in order to improve your life, that I will go through, in order to help people that read my blog, and that see my post on Facebook and Twitter.

I am happy to share this material with you, as I am happy to give content to people, so that they can handle these steps on their own. I read today that there is a clear connection between happiness and having a goal or dream to achieve ahead of you. If you have such a dream or goal ahead of you, to achieve, and do not know where to begin, or where to get going, you can follow this series till the end, and you will have a great way to solve many of the steps along the way.

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WRITE A LIST OF ALL THINGS THAT ANNOYS YOU

That is correct, it is important point to start to create a better life. To write down every little or big thing that you are feeling that do not do something great for you. It can be a list of about 100 things, and it might not be that easy to start off. This because, when you have settled for them for a while, you become numb to them.

So point number 1, is to write down the list, in the book I read, the author states that it is important to write it down, that be whether you think you can do something about it or not. These small or big things drain your energy, and makes you not have the energy to do the things you dream of, and it is therefore a very important point to start of with.

My experience

I tried this when I first read this tip, and I must eagerly tell you all, that it had the most incredible effect on me. I could not stand a few things that happened around me. So I wrote them down, not knowing how I could deal with them, but new 3 months later, most of the points has no longer any draining effect on my energy. It is incredible how this has worked.

I find that I am feeling better with myself, better in my relationship with both my partner, my friends and the world in general. I have not noticed many of the changes, they have happened a lot by themselves, or so I would say. I think, what really happens is that the subconscious mind are working on me being aware of the things that drain my energy, and do not let them in. In other words, I have created another habit around these things.

I have a few points left, approximately 20 of them are still there, but some of them are big ones, like me getting healthier, and I am working on them, the reason this annoys me, is that I am unable to do what I want. Taking so many medications as I do now, is one area that I hope I will be able to stripe off my list eventually. So please, listen.

Just, follow this advice, write this list, even if you do not work on them much, there will happen a shift. There will be somethings out of your head that no longer drain your energy. This will lead to more energy to do what you want to do, and this will create more happiness, more energy and more time to start pulling towards your goals and dream.

Good working with you, keep going and have more fun, more energy, more up and go. To you all, till next week, enjoy life, and live it to the fullest.

Greetings to you all
John

Passing the Exam

Hi all,

Thanks for following my blog, and keep on reading it. I have finally got my form up and running, you can sign up on the right hand side, but I will include it in here:

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I am so happy to inform you that I will soon include a free item with the form, if you sign up now, you will not lose out on it, I will send a free item to all that signs up, even if they sign up before I get to set up the form.

I am so happy today, I worked hard for my last exam, NLP Practitioner certification. It is an area that I thought I knew a lot about because I heard Tony Robbins talk about it in his program Personal Power 2, when I studied that. That is a program which is over 20 years old, and the explanation that time, did not exactly describe what I have learned over the last few months. NLP is short for Neuro-Linguistic Programming. It includes many different technologies, and it was very interesting to learn it properly.

In the course there was lots of exercises so I have practiced a lot on my fellow students and on my friends. This is really a fun tool to put in your life coaching suit case. That is where it belongs, in the tool box. There is many applications from NLP that are perfect for life coaching, however, some of them lean more towards hypnosis. That is real hypnosis, not the one that some of my friends had been shown on TV during the last 20-30 years.

You know, where the hypnotist get people into a trance and get them to walk around a sing like a crow or talk like a hen. In fact, from Steve G Jones, which is a hypnotist I have got a more reflective view on what hypnosis is, and it has nothing to do with the thing they has projected it to be on TV. It is really strange why TV again prove to try to alter peoples view on a thing. I am not really surprised, as it is what TV do in most cases. I can no longer believe anything I see on TV. Or, it has to be a documentary, and I have to know who is behind it, and what view they are projecting.

It is the same no matter what you watch, there is always a try to brain wash you, that is why the programs are made, they are not there for pure entertainment. Usually a great portion of the programs are created to make you feel addicted to keep watching that machine or screen in front of you. It is an addiction, just like alcohol, drugs, or gambling. You know why? Because the television companies are relying on people watching their programs to earn revenue in form of commercials.

Today, I am so happy because I have passed the exam, so now stands the big test, getting to use it in real life, on people that do not know me. I hope you are ready to take the step and come and book an initial consultation with me.

Hope to see you soon.

Greetings
John Eide

What is Coaching?

Hi All,

So today, we will start a series of blog posts, the start of it, will start with the main question, what is coaching? It is what I do, I am going to be doing coaching. So to define it, and what I am doing, is a great way to start of this blog.

Coaching, they say is taking someone from where they are and to move them to where they want to go. Or in another way, fill the gap in someones life. It creates a route to make someone take the steps they want to take, but have not been able to take alone.

I am lucky, I get to be the helper, the mentor and the accountability partner for a person that are going on his life’s journey. Joseph Campbell called it a Hero’s Journey. A Hero’s Journey is purposely a full circle. Because what you do is go away somewhere and come back and teach someone about it. A little like what I did myself, when I moved to Australia, then New Zealand, and then came back to Norway again, 24 years later.

So I have been on my journey, I am back and can teach others about the journey I went on, not only that, but I can tell them about handling the fears and challenges it took to do it. In your life, there will be fears, there will be challenges, and you will have demons that step you on your feet, when you think you are going to make the step. This is one reason the coach can be a great helper, a great mentor and an accountability partner to have by your side.

What is fear? Fear is described in many Hero’s Journey stories, as a dragon, or a monster, or something frightening. A Hero’s Journey story is one of the old stories you read as a child, or like Star Wars, you probably saw at the movies. It is a hero, that beats the villain/s. The fear is what we feel before we step into the Hero’s Journey, by many it is therefore described as what the Hero is afraid of. In real life, our fear is what we have learned during our life.

To fight the fear, we say that the Hero must have courage, but many books states that this is not the case, they state that courage is what you know you have to do, and you do it. While lack of courage keeps you back, and stop you, hold you back. In life, it can be the fear of being ridiculed, the fear of what your family and friends are going to say. This stops you from joining your Hero’s Journey. Thereby missing out on living your bliss.

A bliss, is what you were made to do. That is doing what you just love to do. I have heard many times, that statement that say: ¨If you get to work with what you love, you never work a day in your life¨.

I have been there, even while in New Zealand, I faced another Hero’s Journey, when I faced a choice in my life of what to do next. I worked in a safe job in a bank. I lived a good life. I could stay there, and have a safe income. But due to some circumstances that I do not want to tell the world, I chose to not do that, but rather follow my instinct, and apply to become a lecturer. It was not easy to do, it was hard to really find the right words to describe why I even thought I could become a lecturer, when I had to fill in the reason for my first prospective employer, but I got it. For 11 years I got to live what really showed up to be the dream of my life.

Therefore I want to do more teaching, I am now in a situation where I am not allowed or able to hold down a fulltime job. I have learned to live with that fact now. I have still found that I can be useful to the society. I can use my lecturing and teaching skills, to teach others different things in this world. I can teach them what they want to do, I can teach them economics, I can teach them accounting, I can teach them how to utilize Neuro-Linguistic Programming, I will soon have my Master Certificate in Coaching, and a Certificate in Business Coaching and a Certificate in Marketing, thought by people that teach practical stuff, not theoretical stuff, in other words, they teach you how it works in the real world.

So, now I stand in front of a new Hero’s Journey. I look forward to it. I am glad I am choosing to do this, rather than sit down and live on bread for the rest of my life, I can achieve something, I have wished for since the day I left New Zealand, to go back there, and meet up with my daughter, and take her with me, my fiance and her daughter, and go travelling together as a whole family.

It will be my honor to achieve it, I will be so proud when I do it. I will never let it out of my sight, until we do it. My life, is not worth living until the day we can do it, and even though I have not asked any of the other parties if they want to do it yet, I am sure they will be happy too.

The end of this, will be that, I can take me on this journey, I can help you do this kind of journey, as I have successfully done this twice myself. Come on, what are you waiting for? It is real life, it is not living by the demands and expectations of others. Find the courage, face the dragons (the fear), in fact, love the fear, you will find it is yourself holding you back.

The fear is yourself, yourself projected in the world outside, your real self is within, the world within you. Take the first step, find your journey. Hire me, I can help you on your way. I am ready, I want to take you, I am ready to go thru fire with you. It does not matter if it is big or small. Your first journeys can be small. It is OK. Just take the step, join the Hero’s, live your life.

Live your life as it was meant to be, not as all the others expect you to live.

Good luck, it is your choice.

Have a great decision, I offer free initial sessions, if you just want to discuss it, I am here, ready to join you, in the next few weeks we will look at small steps you can do to create a better life for yourself, right here, right now, without doing the big steps I am talking about.

Have a great week my friends.
Coach Eide

Our Mind is Programmed

Hi All,

And welcome to a new week. How are you doing today? Most of you will without thinking answer: ¨I am fine, thank you, and you¨? And that is fine, we do that out of habit, or we will have big eyes turned toward us. I know, I did for about half a year, not say this, but instead I turned around and said: ¨Oh, you would not believe how bad I feel today, would you like to hear it¨? Most people just kept walking as if I had said I was fine, but there were others that was actually listening to what I said, and they really got scared. Most of them ran away, a few unfortunate souls, said: ¨John, is it that bad, let me hear about it¨. When they said that, I started telling them, I had a half hour complaint about how bad the world was, how children are dying in Africa, and about all the wars in the world, and how some countries kill their people, etc etc etc.

It was a tough morning for those two, they really got to here all that was wrong in this world, all at once. Was that a nice thing to do? No, it was not nice to do it to someone, and it was not nice for me to be doing it. This, because it made me focus on all the wrong stuff, the negative stuff, and I needed to remain positive and happy, but I was not getting there, I did not manage to get happy for that half a year. It became to bad, that I went into a real depression, I literally made myself sick, just by thinking about negative things.

We can all do this, and most of us do, by every day focusing on the negative stuff. We read newspapers, we watch TV, we listen to other people complain, we hear it everywhere. It is scary. There is so much negativity in the world, it is overloaded. I just heard a movie that puts it all in perspective. The reason it is like that, is that we are programmed finished by the age of 7. That is right, by the age of 7 years of age, our brain is finished programmed. We have learned all the stuff our parents do, we have learned all the rules of being in a family, we have learned how to behave in society. How? By watching others, especially our parents, and the rest of the family.

Then we have the proof that our belief can move mountain, look at medicine. Have you heard about the Placebo effect? It is when a person take a pill to get well from a disease, and the person get given the prescription for the tablet, but instead of being given the real pill, all they are getting is a sugar pill, and people still get well. It is not the sugar in the pill that makes you well, it is your belief. You have the opposite effect also. People thinking negative thoughts can think themselves sick, in the clip I just saw on Youtube, they even told you that people can think themselves to die. That is scary, but I can imagine, since they have proved it work the other way, it must be true that we can do it this way too. I thought myself to a bad heart, and I nearly died in the operation, and I had 5 stents put into the blood vessels the year after, because I was so negative. It is hard for the body to create so much plaque in one year.

So what can we do about it? Are we stuck? No, we are not, otherwise it would not be much point in writing about it. I am here to tell good news. It is really good news. I am learning Life Coaching Skills, NLP and a bit of Conversational Hypnosis at present, and through Hypnosis you can alter this very sharply, and very quickly, yes, in fact, you do not have to do hypnosis, in some cases auto-suggestions are enough, it depend on your attitude to change. I have at the moment my girlfriend trying out this method, and she has changed dramatically in her attitude to quit smoking. It is like night and day to talk to her about quitting smoking. Before, she would say, ¨I do not want to stop¨; now she say ¨I am so happy I have started this quitting thing, I feel so much better¨. Is that not amazing? And all just from a few lines of auto-suggestions that she did not even want to believe in a few weeks ago.

So here is the final conclusion; we live in habits, our subconscious mind control our life (90%), we take charge sometimes (10%). If we want to alter something, it is important to alter our beliefs. And most self-development stuff, do not alter beliefs, but just tell us to do more actions. However, to change our beliefs, we have to alter our thinking, and we have to give strong feelings to the new thoughts, so that it actually work to remove the old habit. Through auto-suggestions or conversational hypnosis, you can change the habits of your life.

Get going, produce your better life now. If you like to learn more, get in touch, and we can work on this together. I hope to hear from you, and I have a few more tricks up my sleeves in this regards that I can teach you. So I hope to hear from you. Go into Book an Initial Session, then we will work through the program and we can take it from where you are at.

Have a lovely day, and a fabulous week.

All the Best;
Coach John Eide

Coaching and Appointments

Hi All,

I am so happy that you are here with me. Are you a little worried about thinking about starting a coaching relationship? What is it all about? Why should I need a coach? How can a coach help? These are some of the questions that I will try to show a bit about in this blog post. It is most fun and excitement, and not something one need to be worried about.

For many a coaching relationship would be something completely new. And new things can be a bit frightening. Not that we will admit to it. We just avoid it and in that way, we avoid having to deal with the situation. Many people live in quiet desperation instead of doing something about what they know needs to be done something about. It is not a nice world out there. People do not want to face what is foreign and might seem frightening. What is a coaching relationship all about? I would define it more like a good friend that keeps you accountable when it comes to working towards what you want, and I would not say that that sounds either frightening or scary, in fact, that is what I want my best friends to do. Keep me accountable to what I want to achieve. It is fun to develop your life, to achieve new goals and to experience new heights of life quality. If I stay the same, I feel bored, I feel like life is not worth living. Remember, life has no meaning, except that which you bring to it.

So what is the coaching relationship and the coaching session, and how does it all work? I try to explain a little about them both. The coaching relationship is between you and the coach, a relationship develops, so it is great if you find a person you like, but are not too close too, that is right, I do not coach friends, there is a reason, you have developed a close relationship already, and it can make it hard to ask the tough questions. That is right, if a coach and a client gets too close, there is a danger that the relationship ruins the power of being a coach. What is the coaching sessions for? That is where we do the work that we need to do to move you towards your goal, we look at the goals you set last time, what has happened, what you have done, and how it worked. We then review and reflect on what happen and whether that made you reach your goal you had set. Did you achieve it? Did you achieve some? Or did you achieve none of what you had planned? No matter what happened, what is the next step? Will you set new goals, will you alter the goal you set, or are you happy with were you are now? It is all up to the client what happens next, we as coaches offer our services, and we are there to help ask questions, help sort resources you may need to look at, and to keep you accountable for reaching your goal. I can for example help you work on your goal, I can question the goals, sometimes we want to achieve a goal that is too much over one week, and we then break them up, and achieve a piece at the time, remember the expression, you can eat an elephant one piece at the time. In the end, we set up a new appointment to meet again to do it all over again.

As you see, the coach can be very useful, in helping out finding resources, it can be resources in form of books, it can be resources the coach has collected or summaries for himself in the past, that can help you. It is often also referring to people like doctors and nutritionists, for example if you want to start a diet, you need to see your doctor before you finally decide that the plan is sound. Remember you as a client do not normal disclose your medical record to your coach, well, as a coach I often know of some of your medical history, but it is not all specifically described and I am not educated as a doctor and can therefore not give you advice in the domain of your personal doctor. It is why you often see advice on healthy food that you should take advice from your doctor before you start eating it. You could have a medical condition that is affected in some way by the healthy supplement you start taking. It is worth knowing of the reactions if nothing more. Doctors do give an expert advice, a coach is not an expert on nutritionist or medical matters. We are not meant to be, and we are supposed to advice our clients to seek professional advice before starting any diet or exercising program, no matter how highly recommended a diet or exercising regime comes. As a coach, I can help you look at how the progress is going of the diet or exercising, but I am only there to hold you accountable in this matter, in other words, I can help you motivate yourself to do things you have planned to do, because you will need to come and tell me whether you did it or not last week, and you do not want to be lying to anyone. The way our minds work, it means we have an extra motivation to execute our plan.

So we have looked at what a coaching relationship and a coaching session is, we have not gone into details in any length of the imagination, my purpose with this blog was to show that it is nothing scary, it is not anything to worry about, and it can be really useful. There is a reason why all successful athletes has a coach. It is also more and more common for successful people to have a coach as well. Remember, everybody started where they are, and work their way towards the top, nobody started at the top. One can be wealthy by inheritage, but nobody can have their thinking done for them.

Hope to hear from you soon. Nothing to be worried about. The Initial Session is free, go to the link on top of the page and click the menu that says Book an Initial Session, it is FREE. Enjoy it.

Have a great week.
Coach Eide
We all can be more, and we all can be what we will to be.

Corona and Life Coaching

Hi All,

A new week, a new possibility, but still Corona is riding us as a night mare.

It has started to come a lot of great positive stories out on Facebook, lots of progress is happening. Not that I hear any of that in the media, but I try to stay focused on the positive, at the same time as I take all the precautions I can. Business still must go on.

Many businesses has stopped up completely. It is a night mare for the world economy. There seems to be nothing happening, but there must be things happening. There is being produced food that we can eat, or we would have a problem very soon, there is many people being sick, and an awful amount of people dying from or with the Corona Virus. It is awful to see the results of a few people eating wild animals spreading throughout the world. What will happen to the world after this? Some say we will become a better world, some say it will be a financial crisis. Who knows. Time will tell. I have learned to not worry to much by saying 4 words: ¨This to will pass¨.

Corona has closed down the world, it has been told that most people that die are old people, but at the same time there are lots of young people both being sick, and also very sick with the virus. Our business is effected in that we cannot do face-to-face coaching at present, but thanks to the technology we have excess to the second best form of face-to-face communication. We have Zoom, Skype and Facebook Messenger, and can communicate with people while seeing them on all three platforms. So there is lots of ways to communicate with clients. We have found that there is an increased need to help people take their focus away from the fear that they feel about the Corona virus. It is important to be careful, and it is important not to be fearful. Why? Well, fear stops your natural thinking and can in the end, in fact, be the reason you create sickness and disorders. So it is important to keep a positive mind set going. No matter how hard it gets.

Now when the Corona Virus is very bad in some countries, it is great to see the many happy stories that come out from Facebook, of course, there are sad stories that should not be forgotten too, but there are many positive stories, not just about people surviving, but about research that is progressing towards possible cures for the sickness the Corona Virus brings. Some medicines we already have developed seems to be working against the virus at different stages in the progression, like the Malaria drug and the Ebola drug, meaning the drug that did not work successfully against Ebola, but it seems to now help in the fight against Corona. It is great to see how the researcher are now scrambling to help out in the fight against Corona. Hopefully one day we will have a way to be sure nobody will die from this virus any longer. We can only hope so far, but we see a chance for it, if we keep our minds healthy and positive.

For my business as a Life Coach, I have cancelled all live face-to-face call, and are only booking online face-to-face calls, it is nearly the same, except when people are jumping away from the screen. Of course, I miss the relationship one can build when one are in the same room, but due to my health risks I am not taking the risk of being in the same room as anyone just at the present. I am not scared, I am only positively careful. It is important not to let our minds slip into being or feeling scared or fearful. There is a lot of danger in doing that. We have to remain positive and hope that things will pass. If you like a free consultation with me on Skype, Zoom or Facebook Messenger (I prefer the two first one) then you can go to the link on top of the page to book an initial consultation, there is a booking system there where you can book a time that suit you.

If anyone want to learn to remain calm in these crazy time, I will be just happy to be part of the team that support you, and get out on the other side. I particularly focus my life coaching on home business building and personal development, it is great to work with people and as they said at Mindvalley, everyone needs a coach, just even to bounce ideas off. To challenge oneself. It is just that we do, we help you see what you do not find out of yourself. Sometimes I hear people say that it is strange to have a coach, but I insure you, it does help us in life. Especially if we are working on a project. We can do a lot of things we did not even know we could do, and with encouragement from a person from the outside, it increases your capacity, and it reminds you.

A final thought on Corona Virus, and these special times. We think it is important to remember, that there are lots of good work going on, there is a lot to be said for finding a plan B in life, and we are all becoming aware of the fact that there are so many risks just focusing on one income stream. So remain positive, hope for the best in life, and do not become fearful or let these days overwhelm you, have a great day, and hope to hear from you.

Together Everyone Achieves More – So too can YOU!

Have a great week.
John

Coaching Lessons

Hi All,

I am so happy to announce my nearing the end of the Master Life Coaching course, it has been so wonderful to learn all this new material. I am so happy to take in new useful learning, and get to transfer the knowledge to my clients. To create a better life for my clients is my most high goal in life. Today I want to talk about the importance of taking personal responsibility in changing your life.

I live and breathe for helping people from all walks of life, to increase there quality of life. To find their purpose in life, to learn how to move towards it and to create the happiness life was meant to be, but unfortunately so many of us do never seem to experience.

I have through many different situations been coaching people from my students when I was a lecturer at different small universities in New Zealand, to my daughter when she grew up, and a lot of my friends that I studied with in the University of Auckland. It has been a lot of fun, not only creating a plan for them, but to see them fulfilling their goals and creating a wonderful feeling of success. That is what my goal is for every client I take on now also.

I mean what else should be the meaning of being a coach? Of course, some clients come to me with hopes that are unrealistic, but that is usually not a problem. It is a fun challenge to see the person think what they want, and to start building their dream. I have managed to build more than a dozen people’s dream to a level where they did not think they could go. So, I am confident we can get things to happen that did not look possible at the outset. If fact, if I did not think that would be possible, I am sure, I would not be a coach. Because the fun thing in coaching is to create a life that is more than what you think you could do, from a start which was not all that you wanted it to be in the first place.

In life, there are many situations that arise that makes things not seem to be so good. The important thing is that we do not start thinking it is someone else’s fault, but take personal responsibility for our situation. Why? Well, first of all, if you do not take personal responsibility for something, well, then there is nothing you can do, you will forever just be a victim. I have had situations in my life where I have sat myself to become a victim, and when I started looking at doing something about it, I had to understand that I could not see it that way. I had to turn it around, take personal responsibility to for what the situation was, and start altering it. It was difficult in the beginning, but as the years has progressed it has become easier and easier to take this responsibility upon myself. It sort of becomes a thing one do.

Secondly, when you want to do something about something, and you know you are responsible for something, you can plan a way out. You can set goals, for when to change the situation. Something you cannot change immediately, but by starting with what you can change, many other things will change little by little, too. It is very important to get guidance in such cases, and I am here to help if you like to have some help in this area. I have build up an expertise in this area, kind of, by personal experience. There has been many a situation I have been building my way out of, so, if you need, grab a pen and paper and get in touch. My first initial consultations are free, and can be ordered here on my website. Look for the menu for booking an appointment. I look forward to hearing from you.

Finally, only the thing that we are personally responsible for, can we change. It is a true fact, you cannot change another person or another thing, but yourself. One thing I have learned along the way, is that by changing yourself, you often find that the way things looks are not always correct, and that things can solve themselves just from small changes. Yes, some things take a long time to change, but many, unbelievably many things can solve themselves just learning to asking a few questions, and that, is something we learn a lot about in our courses in Life Coaching. I am so happy and proud to be a student of such a great Life Coach, one which has been a Life Coach for a long time. Dr Steve G Jones, he is not just a Life Coach, he also work with Hypnosis and NLP, too, but he is very knowledgeable about Life Coaching, too.

In the end, I will say this, if you have anything you like to change in your life, and you have not found a way to change it yet, yourself, there might need to be someone helping you to find the way out at the other end. I will not take your money and run, I will work with you and help you, until you succeed, honoring my commitment to help you, and want you to succeed, I want you, too, completely work on your schedule, meaning I want you to set the limits for what we work on, even though it might be harder that way, but you are the boss, I am your coach, thank you for reading this blog post. I want you to create the success you were meant to be.

Let us do it together. One step at the time. All the way.

Greetings
John

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What is happening with me

Hi people,

Now I am soon ending a very important program I have been going thru, it is so powerful, you would not believe it if you do not do it yourself. It is a 6 months program, helping you realizing what is real self-development. It is not really self-development that you would think of normally. That is if you read self-development books. Have you been reading them? Well, you will be better of listing your name with me, and let me teach you step by step or let me guide you to take the course with the leaders I am doing right now.

On and up, I have been doing more than that, too. For those of you that are into MLM, I am learning the real work that you should be learning to do it properly. I can teach you the techniques that you should have learned from your upline, but they are more busy talking terminology and not going anywhere themselves. This course is mounted towards helping people to build it big in MLM, and as a teacher I can teach you the skills required if that is what you want to achieve.

In addition, I have taken an introductory course at New Skills Academy, and another introductory course in Life Coaching, in both I gained the qualification as a Life Coach. In addition I am doing a Master Life Coach course as it is. I am learning, as usually, from the best there is. So, that I have the confidence to go out there and tell you that I can help you. I will today open up my booking system, there is available hours that you can book. This is for the introductory session. In it we will discuss, what you want, where you are, what motivates you to get from A to B and also tell you the how you are going to work with me, on your own, and finally what I expect back from you, and an important matter of prices and whether you want to go for a single lesson deal or a multiple lesson deal. It is up to you. My goal is to have you able to do this on your own as fast as possible.

Further studies are taking place, I am now also going to learn from the best in the business, about Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and about Hypnosis. These are instrumental techniques we can add to the Life Coaching sessions if we need to.

All together this makes for a very powerful combination, and I am pretty certain I can be of assistance for you. That be it in small business, MLM or in your personal life, which are my 3 specializations, for the time being. I can be adding areas as I go, but I want to remain focused on the areas that I can do first of all.

My background, you can read more in about me, is in Teaching/Lecturing, Coaching and Management. I have learned a lot from Tony Robbins thru the years, I have learned a lot from Robert Kiyosaki for investment and life principles, I have learned a lot from Mark Januszewski, and I have learned a lot from life of hard knocks, through running my own businesses and from growing up in a not so perfect situation, but I turned out alright in the end and that is the most important part.

Let us get together, go and book a Introductory Session at the top of the page, and we will meet on your choice of internet surface; Facebook Messenger, Skype or Zoom (only max 45 min each session).

Look forward to us building a strong foundation, and a straight through to the top and great success.

Have a wonderful day, the world is great, we are strong, whole, perfect, powerful, loving, harmonious and happy, and we get better and better every day, all year around. Take your time, think it through, and join me for a FREE Introductory session to see if we can be a fit.

All the best for your life
John

Welcome

How are you all doing? I have newly completed Certified Life Coaching training with Steve G Jones, but I have beeen working as a Life Coach for many years, first helping the international students I was educating, second as an Academic Leader and also during my time as a student at University of Auckland, New Zealand, it is incredible exciting to be with someone on a journey to improve themselves or their business.

If you are in the process of improving yourself, then I hope to hear from you, I am sure we can get along, and have a wonderful time, finding your way to where you really want to be.

The booking system is set up, and activated, when you see Book an Initial Consultation in the Menu, you can book an initial consultation. For the time being send me an email.

I hope to see you, we can discuss everything, from price to what we will be doing coaching about. By having an initial consultation there is no guarantees and no promises from either side that we will work together. We have to finish the initial consultation and then set up a contract, it could be you and it could be me, that are not sure that the relationship and task at hand is not a right fit. If we get to an agreement, we sign a contract, and then we work our way to the goal is achieved.

See you soon.
John Eide